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Marriage Triggers: Exchanging Spouses' Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

Marriage Triggers: Exchanging Spouses' Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

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  • Author：Amber Lia
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Summary

Foreword by Dave and Ashley Willis， authors of The Naked Marriage and hosts of The Naked Marriage Podcast

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and applying God’s Word to radically transform relationships。

Many couples know their marriage has room for improvement， but it is hard to pinpoint exactly why a relationship is suffering。 Often times everyday triggers are the culprit。 If you are wondering how to break out of the cycle of reactionary outbursts， cold shoulders， resentment， and pain that harms your relationship， you are not alone。 Experiencing peace and joy rather than anger and frustration is not as hard as you think！

Marriage Triggers walks you through thirty-one of the most common marital issues that sabotage great relationships， like poor communication， lack of spiritual leadership， busy schedules， and different parenting styles。 Married for fourteen years， authors Amber and Guy Lia are your typical couple and they share tips for countering negative reactions to triggers with gentle， biblical responses。

Rather than run from the things that cause conflict， Amber and Guy believe these triggers are opportunities for growth， both individually and as a couple。 They challenge you to let Marriage Triggers renew your commitment to responding gently and biblically towards your partner。

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Reviews

Julian ，

Good & great advices

Elizabeth Fox ，

I had lots of reflections as I read this book。 I also realized how many of these things I was dealing with in my own marriage but not entirely conscience of it all。 I appreciate the Lia's being willing to write a book that allows people to see what the big triggers can be and to ultimately remind them to ask God for help/to start over in their marriage。 I had lots of reflections as I read this book。 I also realized how many of these things I was dealing with in my own marriage but not entirely conscience of it all。 I appreciate the Lia's being willing to write a book that allows people to see what the big triggers can be and to ultimately remind them to ask God for help/to start over in their marriage。 。。。more

Stacie Snodderly ，

Loved this book！ They incorporate scripture and real life stories and struggles they have had and worked through。 This book is a must for any and all marriages。

Jessica DeMent ，

After reading the original Triggers and  having a transformation in my parenting， I opened my copy of Marriage Triggers with great expectations。 I was not disappointed。 Within the first few days， I quickly noticed a change in my heart that triggered a change in my marriage。 Marriage Triggers is a wonderful balance of conviction and encouragement， wrapped up beautifully with God's Word。 Whether your marriage is in need of a minor  tune-up or a major overhaul， this book is a great tool that will h After reading the original Triggers and  having a transformation in my parenting， I opened my copy of Marriage Triggers with great expectations。 I was not disappointed。 Within the first few days， I quickly noticed a change in my heart that triggered a change in my marriage。 Marriage Triggers is a wonderful balance of conviction and encouragement， wrapped up beautifully with God's Word。 Whether your marriage is in need of a minor  tune-up or a major overhaul， this book is a great tool that will help you to see those annoying marriage triggers as opportunities to draw closer to Jesus 。。。more

Paullette Harris ，

Get ready for real marriage topics to be shared！ This book discussed real and quite difficult topics that I have experienced in my marriage。 Amber and Guy have done a good job of sharing biblical truths to overcome obstacles in your marriage along with practical solutions。

May ，

I loved Parenting Triggers and I loved Parenting Scripts， so when I saw that there was a Marriage Triggers coming out I was on board！ I wish I could’ve read this 10 years ago when I was a newlywed！ I will definitely be buying this as marriage gifts for newly married couples！ This is really important information that is easier read than figuring out first hand！

Heather Dick ，

So many great insights in this book that I wouldn't have ever thought about。 And the guidance and help in addressing all the different triggers is wonderful and eye opening！ It's an amazing book and if you are able to read it and put it into practice， I truly believe that not only can your marriage be changed， but the relationships you have with everyone around you can be as well！ Amazing and life changing！ So many great insights in this book that I wouldn't have ever thought about。 And the guidance and help in addressing all the different triggers is wonderful and eye opening！ It's an amazing book and if you are able to read it and put it into practice， I truly believe that not only can your marriage be changed， but the relationships you have with everyone around you can be as well！ Amazing and life changing！ 。。。more

Heather Fiedler ，

I was so excited to see that Amber and Guy were coming out with Marriage Triggers。 This is a great marriage resource that brings in perspectives from both Amber and Guy of common marriage triggers。 They guide readers by sharing real life examples and give gentle biblical responses to those conflicts that tend to trigger anger。

Amanda Sichmeller ，

This book was just “meh” for me。 I probably would have appreciated it more as a newlywed but the advice fell flat for me （married 6 years with 3 children）

jennifer oestreich ，

This book has had such a huge impact in my marriage！ My husband and I had the opportunity to read it before it’s release- Amber and Guy are so easy to relate to and I’m so thankful for the way they transparently share their journey and the things they have learned over the years。 My husband and I were able to really sit back and have some amazing conversations throughout the book。 I’d HIGHLY recommend this book to any of my married friends。 It is easy to read and yet full wisdom。

Fibia ，

Great book for married couples。 Guy and Amber have honestly written about different triggers in a marital relationship and ways to deal with them biblically。 Change comes primarily from allowing God to change ourselves。 This book does NOT talk about staying in an abusive relationship if you are a Christian。 It is geared toward couples where both partners are willing to change so the marriage becomes the best it can be。 Great encouragement and pointing us to Christ。

Kirstine ，

In the marriage triggers book I have been able to look through my marriage from another lens。 Even though I can’t relate to all of the marriage triggers it is great to be aware of several of them so I don’t fall into any of those triggers。 I think that many couples could gain a lot from this book and become aware of the 31 most common marriage triggers。 The book certainly gives you a lot to think about regarding your own marriage and own you can make it better。

Jenn McClure ，

Whether you're recently engaged or just celebrating 50 years together， this book truly has something for every couple。 Marriage is not always roses and bubbly champagne， as we all know。 Life can be messy and if you have a lot of triggers in your marriage， it can be explosive。 Guy and Amber Lia tackle the little things in life that can trigger not so little reactions in our marriages， one short chapter at a time。 A great book to read and share with all your married friends and a total marriage ga Whether you're recently engaged or just celebrating 50 years together， this book truly has something for every couple。 Marriage is not always roses and bubbly champagne， as we all know。 Life can be messy and if you have a lot of triggers in your marriage， it can be explosive。 Guy and Amber Lia tackle the little things in life that can trigger not so little reactions in our marriages， one short chapter at a time。 A great book to read and share with all your married friends and a total marriage game changer！ 。。。more

Melissa ，

This book is better than good。 It's really the perfect book for every marriage， those who are newlyweds and those who've been married for 30 years。 The Lia's take turns in writing the chapters， so you will hear from both perspectives which is perfect for the couple reading this together。 （which I think is a good idea） They address many triggers a marriage may face including: in-laws， finances， communication and intimacy。 If you， like God， want your marriage to THRIVE， you should read this book。 This book is better than good。 It's really the perfect book for every marriage， those who are newlyweds and those who've been married for 30 years。 The Lia's take turns in writing the chapters， so you will hear from both perspectives which is perfect for the couple reading this together。 （which I think is a good idea） They address many triggers a marriage may face including: in-laws， finances， communication and intimacy。 If you， like God， want your marriage to THRIVE， you should read this book。 If your marriage is already thriving， read this for encouragement to keep those flames burning！ You will have a renewed understanding of each other as well as the scriptures to fall back on when times may get tough。 This is an awesome resource， truly inspired by the Lord。 You will not be disappointed！ 。。。more

Cassandra Koshatka ，

This book is for ALL couples that want to make sure that Christ is at the center of their marriage。 I think some people might read the title and keep going because they think they don't need it。 We ALL need more of Jesus in the way that we respond to our spouses。 This book helps us to realize areas that we need to make adjustments in that we didn't even know were off。 On the other hand， it helps provide practical， Biblical direction for the areas that we KNOW we need help in。 The chapters are ea This book is for ALL couples that want to make sure that Christ is at the center of their marriage。 I think some people might read the title and keep going because they think they don't need it。 We ALL need more of Jesus in the way that we respond to our spouses。 This book helps us to realize areas that we need to make adjustments in that we didn't even know were off。 On the other hand， it helps provide practical， Biblical direction for the areas that we KNOW we need help in。 The chapters are easy to read and alternate between Amber and her husband， Guy。 It's NOT just for women。 It's for men， too and best when read together from hearts that long for Christ to be glorified。 My husband and I both know the Lord very well， but we still struggle with our reactions in specific areas and so I'm grateful to have another married couple that loves the Lord enough to boldly share their own shortcomings that others might gain Christ。 Ultimately， this means that the Father is the one that is glorified！ If you and your spouse are struggling to make Christ the center of your marriage， it's time to read this book！ 。。。more

Magdalena ，

A must read for all married couples。 Well written with meaningful stories woven throughout the book to make the points hit home。 5 stars all the way！！I have now read the book twice！ As my second time through was listening to the audible version。 Excellent！！ Highly recommend the audible version。 It is engaging， entertaining， while providing compelling messages based on God principles。 Must read for married couples。

Rachel Rector ，

I was given an early copy of this book from the publisher as part of the launch team。 Honestly， I was frustrated with my marriage， and I needed help。 I thought it would help me figure out how to change the parts of my husband that was difficult for me to live with。 Instead， it truly opened my eyes to my own selfishness and how my own thoughts and actions were setting my husband and our marriage up for failure。 I appreciate how honest Guy and Amber were about their marriage triggers， how they wor I was given an early copy of this book from the publisher as part of the launch team。 Honestly， I was frustrated with my marriage， and I needed help。 I thought it would help me figure out how to change the parts of my husband that was difficult for me to live with。 Instead， it truly opened my eyes to my own selfishness and how my own thoughts and actions were setting my husband and our marriage up for failure。 I appreciate how honest Guy and Amber were about their marriage triggers， how they worked and continue to work through them， scripture they shared， and prayers at the end of each chapter。I would thoroughly recommend this book for all couples！ I think one spouse can read this alone and benefit。 However， I feel from personal experience it would be best read as a couple。 I read most of it without my spouse， and it caused some bitterness I had to work through！ 。。。more

Rachel Loftus ，

Marriage is a relationship so easily tossed to the back burner without either spouse knowing it。 It’s a breeding ground for bitter roots to grow deep without knowing we need to pull them out。 This book， designed with shorts chapters on a good variety of marital conflict areas， is a quick read that convicts， opens your eyes， and encourages you to fight for your marriage with your spouse （instead of fighting with your spouse！）。

Jennifer ，

Great book to work through the things that your spouse does that pushes your buttons。 Amber and Guy graciously point you to Jesus to smooth out those rough parts in YOU to improve your marriage。

Sarah Lanciaux ，

This book is so practical and really helped to improve our marriage。 I love that the chapters a short and perfect for a busy season of life with young children！

Courtney Birkbeck ，

Ok， this book is so， so good。 I'm sitting here， just finished the book and so grateful as I'm going to be applying what I learned in my own marriage。 I've seen so many couples fall apart because of triggers and not be able to handle or or know how to deal with it and I've worried my own marriage would fall apart。 This book gives step by step ideas on how to deal with triggers and how to love each other through it all。 Grateful for this book and will be suggesting it to all my friends。 Ok， this book is so， so good。 I'm sitting here， just finished the book and so grateful as I'm going to be applying what I learned in my own marriage。 I've seen so many couples fall apart because of triggers and not be able to handle or or know how to deal with it and I've worried my own marriage would fall apart。 This book gives step by step ideas on how to deal with triggers and how to love each other through it all。 Grateful for this book and will be suggesting it to all my friends。 。。。more

Sarah ，

Full of practical tips and help as we face our triggers in our marriages。 I cannot change my spouse but I can change my reactions to him。 A good read！

Stacy Meade ，

This is a must have resource for couples。 Marriage can be especially challenging and proactively seeking biblically-based solutions to support your relationship with your spouse can be transformational for your family。 My husband and I have been positively impacted and transformed。 Well done， Amber & Guy Lia。 You have written a really amazing book！

Christine ，

"Marriage Triggers" is a book about dealing with the things that bother you about your spouse in a gentle in Biblical way as written by a husband and wife。 Each chapter covers a marriage trigger alternatively written by Amber or Guy。 There are a lot of real-life examples from their marriage and in the marriage of other people they counseled。 I found it to be helpful and practical。 I would recommend to those interested in Christian living， Christian marriage， and those looking to improve communic "Marriage Triggers" is a book about dealing with the things that bother you about your spouse in a gentle in Biblical way as written by a husband and wife。 Each chapter covers a marriage trigger alternatively written by Amber or Guy。 There are a lot of real-life examples from their marriage and in the marriage of other people they counseled。 I found it to be helpful and practical。 I would recommend to those interested in Christian living， Christian marriage， and those looking to improve communication in their marriage。 Thank you NetGalley for my complimentary copy in return for my honest review。 。。。more

Macki Smith ，

Marriage Triggers is a great book for anyone wanting to improve their marriage （which really should be the goal of all married couples。） The Lias’ honest and practical wisdom gives readers tools and strategies to use in their own marriages to help resolve conflict -- preventing it before it's triggered。 I especially love the chapter on developing a "me-first" mindset， and it's not what you think。 A "me- first" mindset is about becoming the first one in the relationship to apologize and take the Marriage Triggers is a great book for anyone wanting to improve their marriage （which really should be the goal of all married couples。） The Lias’ honest and practical wisdom gives readers tools and strategies to use in their own marriages to help resolve conflict -- preventing it before it's triggered。 I especially love the chapter on developing a "me-first" mindset， and it's not what you think。 A "me- first" mindset is about becoming the first one in the relationship to apologize and take the first step to mend parts that are broken。 Marriage Triggers is not about "fixing" your spouse but about "fixing" your own heart。 I highly recommend Marriage Triggers -- it will not disappoint！ 。。。more

Katie M。 Reid ，

Marriage Triggers is a must-have resource for any couple who desires a thriving marriage。 With a well-balanced approach， Guy and Amber give your marriage a fighting chance by addressing triggers that threaten to divide you。 Confront angry patterns with grace-infused conversations as you move toward a healthier， hope-filled relationship。-Adam Reid， Lead Pastor at Central Church and Katie M。 Reid， Author of Made Like Martha and Co-hosts of the live marriage show， "Stop！ Hammock Time。" Marriage Triggers is a must-have resource for any couple who desires a thriving marriage。 With a well-balanced approach， Guy and Amber give your marriage a fighting chance by addressing triggers that threaten to divide you。 Confront angry patterns with grace-infused conversations as you move toward a healthier， hope-filled relationship。-Adam Reid， Lead Pastor at Central Church and Katie M。 Reid， Author of Made Like Martha and Co-hosts of the live marriage show， "Stop！ Hammock Time。" 。。。more

Sarah Pollie ，

This book is truly excellent。 Not only is this book phenomenal for the marriage aspect - by pointing 2 people to Christ to examine their anger triggers， to consider prayerfully how one can better love and serve their spouse， by realizing perhaps you had not been taking your spouse's point of view on a matter into consideration -- these things will all improve a marriage， but I see this going far beyond just that。 Children in these homes are going to be impacted mightily as well。 They will see th This book is truly excellent。 Not only is this book phenomenal for the marriage aspect - by pointing 2 people to Christ to examine their anger triggers， to consider prayerfully how one can better love and serve their spouse， by realizing perhaps you had not been taking your spouse's point of view on a matter into consideration -- these things will all improve a marriage， but I see this going far beyond just that。 Children in these homes are going to be impacted mightily as well。 They will see their parents resolving conflicts， praying together， choosing to walk away for some space before addressing the issue calmly。 The words that fill these pages are absolutely ready to impact generations to come！ I absolutely recommend everyone read this book。 Determine to push out any preconceived ideas and seek the Lord to open your eyes and heart to whatever He may wish to reveal to you during this read！ 。。。more

Cheri ，

I received this book as a gift from the author through NETGALLEY。 I was very blessed to find out that this book was available for preview from my email subscription to Amber Lia and her previous co-author of the parenting version of Triggers。 I am a huge fan of that book and this marriage triggers book has been so awesome as well。 The chapters are reasonably short to go through in a day and each chapter comes with such a short and sweet prayer at the end。 This book is such a great reminder to ho I received this book as a gift from the author through NETGALLEY。 I was very blessed to find out that this book was available for preview from my email subscription to Amber Lia and her previous co-author of the parenting version of Triggers。 I am a huge fan of that book and this marriage triggers book has been so awesome as well。 The chapters are reasonably short to go through in a day and each chapter comes with such a short and sweet prayer at the end。 This book is such a great reminder to honor God first and foremost in our marriages。 It is far too easy to follow the ideas of the world in regards to marriage， but we are called to a higher purpose。 This book has great references to Scripture， so it was also useful as a devotional。 。。。more

Jennifer ，

4⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️I was super excited about reading this with my husband。 We have certainly had our ups and downs， and I couldn’t wait to learn more about dealing with him。 Marriage is tough and it takes a strong constitution to stay in it。 I love him。 I really do。 So we eagerly dove into this one。 This is a book that gave us transparent and practical insights from a couple， a lot like me and my husband， who love God and are still learning to love one another well。 I loved chapter 3 about backseat driver 4⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️I was super excited about reading this with my husband。 We have certainly had our ups and downs， and I couldn’t wait to learn more about dealing with him。 Marriage is tough and it takes a strong constitution to stay in it。 I love him。 I really do。 So we eagerly dove into this one。 This is a book that gave us transparent and practical insights from a couple， a lot like me and my husband， who love God and are still learning to love one another well。 I loved chapter 3 about backseat drivers， very helpful。 Not everything applied to us but they were helpful and encouraging。 Below are some things I loved。 “We are strongly convinced that properly dealing with triggers is one of the biggest factors that leads to a healthy marriage。”“Being proactive in our marriages prevents us from being reactive in our marriages。”“Imagine what your marriage could be if you were completely in tune with each other’s greatest struggles， needs， desires， and hurts。 Imagine how much closer you could be as husband and wife if those topics that cause instant arguments could become the very topics that lead to your most meaningful conversations。 Imagine being the safest place on earth for each other。” This was a NETGALLEY gift and all opinions are my own。 。。。more

Jocinda ，

Easy book to read and process。 Many helpful Biblical responses to conflicts one might find in their marriage。

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